These Responses to Someone in Crisis do More Harm than Good

“That’s so sad.”

“Oh my God!”

“I am so worried for you.”

“That’s awful.”

“I feel bad for you.”

“That’s horrible.”

“I feel your pain.”

I am sure there are others. Saying this to someone sharing his or her struggles and hardships is actually very insensitive. Sadly, this is often an automatic reaction. It is very discouraging when it comes from someone you are close to.

Give someone a hug, rub his or her shoulders, be still with them and let them lead.

Some people are too quick to mouth off without allowing their brains to process the context.

If someone is grieving the last thing he or she wants to hear is how you feel. Learn how to be there for others while tamping down your feelings? Ask them how you can help and listen.

I know we all feel helpless in times of crisis and just want to soothe our loved ones. Sometimes silence is golden.

Have you ever shared some really devastating news with someone and hear him or her blurt out something that just adds to your hurt? It’s just awful and instinctively you just want to get away from that person and avoid them.

It’s a good reminder to assess a situation and to think well before we speak.

Some hurt can’t be soothed with words. This is why I like just hugging someone going through a hard time and just being there.

Be encouraging by say things like the following:

“Let me pray with you.”

“I am here for you.”

“How can I help you?”

Don’t be that person who blurts out something just to say something when someone shares his or her problems with you.

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