“You live alone!? Don’t you feel lonely?”
Many a conversation has this interjection because the person to whom I am speaking, discovers I live by myself. It happens quite often. (Perhaps it’s a cultural thing here.)
Is living alone synonymous with being lonely?
I wonder if people realise that you can live with others and still be lonely. Loneliness and being alone aren’t two peas in a pod.
Some people like being alone and may even need this for their sanity. There are also others who thrive on being with other people and still others who fall somewhere in the middle. At some point we will be alone. Being alone is great for taking time to develop yourself. Here are some positives from spending time alone:
- You learn to hear your own thoughts and take the time to reflect and unpack things mentally. This gives clarity and helps you to learn important things about yourself.
- You take time to do things that help you to rest. This is, if you learn to enjoy the times when you are alone. I mean, to just lie in bed and scroll through the internet or read a book or just be. I gift myself this opportunity on the weekend. It’s self-care.
- Write down some goals and plans.
- Dance, sing, clean, cook, take yourself out or just do whatever you want to (responsibly of course).
- Develop a routine to pamper yourself in your alone time. This is self-care.
- Go on a retreat by yourself to unwind and relax.
- You can work on creating a peaceful atmosphere in that time as you de-stress.
Indulging in self-care doesn’t mean spending a bunch of money. Something a simple as taking a bath or lying on clean sheets at the end of a long day or eating that meal that hits the spot, soothes you. It’s nice to enjoy being alone at times. If you can’t be at peace when you are with yourself how can you be with others I wonder?
Being alone can be addictive. It’s good to strike a balance.