Who are you surrounding yourself with?






In these weird times when we are not going out as much as we used to – well some of us – if you live alone it is quite easy to feel isolated. The relationships that I poured into are sure paying off in these pandemic times.

I am happy that my friends, key family members and I have had habit of communicating often over the years. It’s really nice to wake up in the morning and see my phone blinking with a voice note from one of my brothers who always checks in on me. Anybody else keep their phone on silent 24/7? It makes for a very peaceful existence? This is a form of self-care since I do not want my phone jarring me awake.

I am happy to be surrounded by great people from different areas of my life – key family and friends.

I surround myself with people who take the time to be there for me in small and big ways. They text, they call, they listen, they encourage, they care as I do the same in our symbiotic relationship.

The times are heavy so it is really good for our mental health to surround ourselves with people that keep us well – mentally, physically, socially and emotionally.

Since I surround myself with these people, I also reach out to keep in touch with them in meaningful ways, often. If they ‘cross’ my mind then I am texting to check in on them. I also scroll through my contacts periodically to ‘link’ those who I haven’t touched based with in a while. We truly get back what we put out because not everyone is going to reach out all the time.

Some things are nice to have but there is nothing like good people around. Pets are also important as companions to keep many well. This should not be discounted.

I value my different circles.

I connect with people in them in meaningful ways since we are scattered all over this earth. I treasure the marathon video sessions on Skype, WhatsApp, Google Meet, Zoom, Line… I use all of them. This kind of technology did not exist 15 years ago when I first came to Japan. I am oh so thankful now.

It is quite satisfying to be literally ‘chatting’ with someone throughout the day. My regulars are in Jamaica, America, England, The Middle East, Rwanda and Japan of course. I love that my notifications keep popping which is another reason my phone stays on silent.

I just wanted to remind someone reading this to surround yourself with good people. Those who are consistent in being there and who are excited with and for you. Let people in though it can be hard after being hurt repeatedly. Those who make time to check in on you and who you just vibe with are important to and for you and them. Don’t put off answering their messages as some like to do.

Surround yourself with those that build you up and who you also build up. This is actually self-care.


  1. I understand what you mean. Your points here resonate with me. For me 2021 is the year to re-evaluate relationships. I am becoming more conscientious about how I invest myself relationally.


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