Trying to meet an individual, who you can cultivate an intimate, God centred relationship with, is like looking for the proverbial needle in the haystack. It can wear you down and steal your JOY. Don’t let it.
It’s quite normal to want to get married and build a life with someone.
It’s ok to have moments of frustration and impatience.
We are humans after all. Waiting year after year and not seeing our dreams and hopes realized in this regard is indeed jarring.
Some may ask or pester you repeatedly about why you are single or about when you are getting married. My favourite response is to ask them, to point me to the store where I can find a husband.
We are more than our singleness.
If you are putting yourself out there: socializing in different places, exploring dating sites and such, you are doing what you can.
Live your life while doing all this:
- Join with other singles and do stuff: dinner, movies, karaoke, travel and whatever works for you.
- Encourage yourself with the fact that God is faithful, he sees you and is really in control of your life.
- Travel solo and explore new or old familiar places.
- Do some online courses and or go after further education opportunities.
- Give of your time and talents in different avenues.
- Be still and learn to enjoy your own company.
- Date but don’t settle out of desperation. The cliche makes sense – it’s better to be single and happy than married and miserable.
I don’t know about you but I am content with my life. There are some triggers. I think all singles have their unique triggers. It pays to know them and circumvent them where possible.
Keep hope alive, have different goals for yourself as an individual. Get out and spend time with others, eat, drink, laugh and make merry. Create an oasis in your place and practice basking in the wonderfulness of it all. Embrace feeling sorry for yourself sometimes. We are humans and that happens. Don’t dwell in that place though because we are more than our single status.