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Being Grateful is a big part of Self-care

How often do we stop and count our blessings? Do we stop and say thank you to God for another day? Being grateful is a part of self-care.

Expressing gratitude for all things great and small in our lives help us to be content and mentally well. Discontent comes many times when we focus for too long, on what we don’t have. The things we yearn for but can’t see how to get them. Also looking too long at the lives of others and wanting what they have blinds you to your blessings. This is a joy stealer.

I often talk to myself at these times and remember the things I have that I am grateful for: relatively good health, family, friends, a job, joy, a place to sleep, life and so on. It is easy to get lost in the illusion of perfection we see in others especially on social media.

This world and its wants, make us feel as if we never have enough or that if we do not have certain things by a certain age we are less than. I am making myself learn to take my eyes off the world and fix them on what God’s words say about me. I focus on life-giving words to remind myself that I am not a puppet, to be tossed about by every flight of fancy that the world throws my way. I practice being grateful for the small things and big things as well as everything in between. I also actively pursue peace and contentment in my life. This is self-care in action.

I am grateful for something as simple as taking a shower and stretching out on my bed every night. After a tiring day, that is just wonderful!

A good way to practice gratitude is to jot down a few things each day that you are thankful for. This has a way of shifting the focus from what we lack to being content with what we do have.

Cultivate a grateful day, one day at a time and help your mind to be at ease.

These Responses to Someone in Crisis do More Harm than Good

“That’s so sad.”

“Oh my God!”

“I am so worried for you.”

“That’s awful.”

“I feel bad for you.”

“That’s horrible.”

“I feel your pain.”

I am sure there are others. Saying this to someone sharing his or her struggles and hardships is actually very insensitive. Sadly, this is often an automatic reaction. It is very discouraging when it comes from someone you are close to.

Give someone a hug, rub his or her shoulders, be still with them and let them lead.

Some people are too quick to mouth off without allowing their brains to process the context.

If someone is grieving the last thing he or she wants to hear is how you feel. Learn how to be there for others while tamping down your feelings? Ask them how you can help and listen.

I know we all feel helpless in times of crisis and just want to soothe our loved ones. Sometimes silence is golden.

Have you ever shared some really devastating news with someone and hear him or her blurt out something that just adds to your hurt? It’s just awful and instinctively you just want to get away from that person and avoid them.

It’s a good reminder to assess a situation and to think well before we speak.

Some hurt can’t be soothed with words. This is why I like just hugging someone going through a hard time and just being there.

Be encouraging by say things like the following:

“Let me pray with you.”

“I am here for you.”

“How can I help you?”

Don’t be that person who blurts out something just to say something when someone shares his or her problems with you.